Episode 16
Cueing Vendors Without Becoming the Wedding Planner
Cue what the ceremony needs — without absorbing the entire wedding into your job description.
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You are the ceremony lead — not the day-of coordinator. In this episode of Wedding Studio by You Had Me At I Do, Mike and Jen draw the line: what you cue (music, processional, recessional, mic), what you do not (catering, florals), DJ handoff language, photographer sightlines, and DIY couples. Brought to you by Studio — vendor contacts on day-of.
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Show notes
Mike and Jen on ceremony leadership versus wedding-planner scope creep.
Your cue lane
- Processional, recessional, mic, readers, unity timing.
- Communication with DJ/AV for ceremony audio.
Not your lane (unless contracted)
- Reception timeline ownership.
- Vendor wrangling beyond ceremony touchpoints.
DIY couples
Be honest about gaps. Offer ceremony clarity. Do not pretend you can also run the whole day unpaid.
Tips & suggestions
- Own ceremony music starts/stops and mic handoffs.
- Do not own catering resets or floral moves unless hired for it.
- Use clear DJ language: song, when, and who walks.
- Protect photographer sightlines at kiss and recessional.
- Escalate DIY gaps to the couple or DOC — do not silently become both.
- Keep vendor contacts in the day-of toolkit.
Vendor coordination
Professional boundaries
DJ cues
Day-of